Cheating

I have been around for 40 years now and I've seen all kinds of people cheat on their spouces and girl/boy friends. I still don't understand the attraction of it. When I was young, I had plenty of girlfriends that I thought were the total shit. I held true to the notion that I should be their one and only. I also held true to my priciples that nobody deserves to have their heart broken because of cheating. My very first girlfriend got drunk and screwed my best friend. I was devestated. I had no idea how to deal with such a thing. I never had a relatiuonship before so I didn't understand why she did it. She said it was because she was drunk and he talked her into it. If she was truly mine then how could he talk her into it? What's mine is mine and I don't share. That swinging bullshit is for people that can't handle monogamy. I can handle it. When I was 20 and found Ethelyn, I forgot there were even other women on the planet. She was my everything. I was also her's. We never got any ideas on having someone else. I've had girlfriend after girlfriend cheat on me. I never understood why. One cheated because of alcohol, or so she said. One cheated for drugs. One cheated because she was paying a debt to the exboyfriend to get him off her back about money. One cheated because she believed everybody else in her life that I was too old for her. One cheated because she felt I was suffocating her. Ok so WTF? All these excuses mean nothing to me. If I got drunk, I went home to get laid. If I felt suffocated, I broke up with her. I never felt a need to screw my dealer to get drugs. I don't think he would've done it anyway. I believe age is just a number if you love somebody. Money is not important enough to sacrifice your principles. My father cheated on my mother. My mother cheated on every man she was ever involved with. My father even cheated on my stepmother so much that they got a divorce so they could both go sleep with other people. But they never moved in with any of them. They just stayed together and screwed around. WTF? The divorce was ok with me but to continue living with each other and acting like a couple is just stupid if you ask me. They both feel they're too old to cheat now thankfully. My mother divorced my last stepfather but now feels sex is obsolete. She has nobody to cheat on thankfully. If I was unhappy in my relationship, I just moved on. Why bother hurting someone if you don't have to? The reason I chose this topic today is that one of my kids is going thru a very hard time with a cheating girlfriend. She says that she loves him in order to keep the money and house he provides but then goes out and screws every other guy in her phonebook. And her phone is full of guys. His mother was, and probably still is, a lying, cheating slut. She screwed anything that could get hard the whole time she was married to his father. He was a trucker, that was her excuse. My son is now broken hearted every day because of this bullshit but there's nothing I can do about it because it's his life. He has to learn all the lessons, no matter how hard, on his own. I have talked till I'm blue in the face about his problem but to no avail. He loooooves her. BULLSHIT! He's addicted to her. She will continue cheating and he will continue letting her break his heart until he finally pulls his head out of his ass. I will never cheat. I still see no reason to hurt anybody if I can help it.If you're unhappy in your relationship, leave it dammit!

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[Cre8tivewmn]

I mostly agree with you.

However I also feel that relationships get exclusive much too quickly now.  Most relationships don''t last but when you add the stresses of house-sharing and money sharing (and possibly kid-sharing) on top of that then people have a hard time walking away.  I think a lot of the cheating is a sub-conscious desire to sabotage the relationship so they will never have to just say what is really going on with them.

I never dated much, but I waited a long time before ever becoming exclusive.  When I was exclusive, that was exactly what it meant to me